I am me.

I cannot believe that I'm being chastized by someone about an issue they weren't even involved in. I realize the are concerned for the other person involved, seeing as they are engaged, but come on! If you feel like you are mature and responsible enough to be married then you should at least have the maturity to address your own issues and concerns with me to me! FRIG! Tell me you have a problem with me yourself! As for the other one chastizing me...were you asked to do so by this other person? Do you honestly think that I am not aware that what I say has an effect on other people? I said what I said and in the manner I did not to tear them down. I was not trying to evoke a sense of guilt or shame on them. They simply are not used to someone actually standing up and disagreeing with what they're saying. You're intended future spouse walks over you without you realizing it. You let them force their opinions on you, and you simply allow it to happen because you say that you love them. Well SHIT! I'm not the one marrying them, I am not going to compromise what I think for their sake, and I certainly am not going to be made to feel guilty about being who I am.